ITS ALL IN THE VESSEL.

 - April 5, 2017

It’s interesting just thinking how we can learn a lot from nature and science. Pregnancy is a risk but it is a risk worth taking. Each pregnancy is different and presents with its own unique sets of challenges. The body has a way of adapting to the presence of the little one in the womb. When the blood vessels do not adapt to the pregnancy, a problem occurs.

Have you ever noticed that if you pass water through a narrow pipe the net effect is increased pressure? When maladaption occurs in the blood vessel, the blood pressure is increased. The effects of uncontrolled blood pressure span by and large across the body ranging from blindness, stroke to kidney failure, damage to the blood vessel itself and don’t forget the destructive effects on the little one growing in the womb. The effects of uncontrolled high blood pressure not only affect the mother but also the baby. Keeping the potential devastating effects of uncontrolled high blood pressure in mind, some of the medication taken helps in targetting the blood vessel so that it relaxes and dilates causing reduction in the high blood pressure towards acceptable levels. This would help prevent the potential devastating effects or further insult to the injury that may have been caused by the uncontrolled blood pressure. These external mechanisms were used to modulate and regulate the vessel with a net effect on reducing the blood pressure. It is a way of helping the body adapt to the new status of pregnancy.

Maladaptation causes dis-ease in relationships. This dis-ease causes disease resulting in damaged relationships. Life is all about change. The quality of life is influenced by the adaptation to change. If you are unable to adapt to change, you are bound to face resistance and some of the effects are devastating. You will find that there are those external factors that help regulate the resistance to change such as getting advice from another who has knowledge of the contentious issues being dealt with. Speaking out and letting some one walk with you during your journey in life even as you move from one stage of life to another, can be transformative and save the relationship in question. Remember, life is a constant process of adjustment with a shifting equilibrium.

Have a fantastic week.

Kiria.

 

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BREAKING POINT.

 - April 4, 2017

At some point in our lives,  we notice that our external environment influences our attitudes and outcomes. We are heavily dependent on others and on circumstances particularly if we are in the initial  stages of development. It is like a seed, so full of potential but heavily dependent on external conditions for growth and development.

In order for a seed to move from a dormant state to a non – dormant state, conditions have to be favorable for development. In most cases, you plant a seed in the soil, water it and hope that it will grow. Have you ever wondered why water  is essential for growth?

Beneath the surface of the soil, the seed takes up water. This causes the seed to swell, the seed coat to soften and the activation of enzymes necessary for growth. Through the process of imbibation of water in the seed’s environment, pressure builds up within the seed and growth is stimulated. Then, finally, the growth supercedes the confines of the seed. Guess what? Germination has occurred!

We need to be aware who we let influence our growth. It is true that the people we choose to surround ourselves with can either lead to our growth or deter progress by either creating a conducive environment or by creating a toxic environment. If you surround yourself with people who share the same vision, people who inspire and encourage, you are bound to grow but, if you surround yourself with negative people, the converse is true.

Sometimes, pressure is necessary for growth. Pressure forces you to become more resilient, to stretch beyond your comfort zone. It forces you to go to the next level. There is discomfort in pressure and sometimes the pressure can feel overbearing, but, it forces you to break out of what was confining you. It releases the amazing potential that once lay dormant within you and eventually allows you to have the freedom for further growth. This is the breaking point.

In order to grow, one must reach the breaking point of what was confining them. Break free from all the fears, break free from the negativity, break free from anxiety. The breaking point is liberating but reaching this point may be influenced by the external environment.

Have a fantastic week.

Kiria.

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anxIety.

 - April 2, 2017

anxIety is a word and an emotion that we are all familiar with at various stages and situations in life. We all have things that make us worry sometimes and yes, it is true that some situations require us to worry because we care about the outcome. But, have you ever wondered where anxiety stems from?  

anxIety may stem from prIde. At the centre of pride is me, myself and you guessed it, I. With anxiety the focus is on me, the burden is on me and the dire consequences are on me, myself and I. The perception is that of being overwhelmed, being incapable of handling what is making you anxious. The result is such a negative attitude that adds onto the anxiety. 

We are told not to be anxious but instead trUst that all will be well. Notice the deflection in the letter ‘U‘. The focus of trust is to shift from me, myself and ‘I‘ to YOU. This requires us to share what is ailing us, what is weighing us down. Despite the liberation that comes with sharing the burden, the tendency is to retain it because the pull towards ‘I’ is strong. There is anxiety associated with sharing. Will I be judged? Will I  be betrayed? The shift from I to YOU is an active process requiring energy against the pull towards self…. Not easy but true. 

Is it right to say that anxiety stems from pride which is rooted in selfishness? What do you think? Hey, you can drop a comment.

 

Have a fantastic week.

Kiria.

 

 

 

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IN TRANSITION.

 - March 27, 2017

There may be times it may feel as though you are just passing through life with no idea which direction you are moving towards. You may have an idea of where you want to go and what you want to do but it seems like there is no clear cut path. Its like you are lost in the wilderness trying to find your bearing. But, it is only by being lost that one can truly be found.

I don’t know whether that makes sense but hey, in some way it does. What happens when your present circumstances do not match your vision? Its a very hard place to be in. That is the middle. Being in the middle of your journey in life is an interesting position. It is a time of uncertainity; a time of developing the fortitude and faith necessary to make it through the journey successfully. It is a time of self discovery. What makes the period of transition even more scary is that the decisions made during this period will potentially affect the possibility of arriving at your desired destination. Even as you may want to take detours, some of them may alter your destination to another one that may either leave you feeling more fulfilled or less fulfilled.

All of us are in transition in our lives. Life is constantly moving and it will continue moving as time goes by. We are all on our journey in life and the decisions we make now influence the direction our life will take. As we face new situations in life, we learn how to deal with what life throws our way.

The  truth is that nothing in life is cut in stone. There are so many uncertainities we face on our journey through life. The thing that gives us strength each day is the faith that the decisions made will work out.

So fear not. You may find people who can relate with you on the anxiety uncertainty brings. Fear of what could go wrong should not be the basis of making decisions rather, the faith that all will be well should.

Have a fantastic week.

Kiria.

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UNQUALIFIED.

 - March 23, 2017

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UNQUALIFIED….

There are times when we feel discouraged, not capable or not good enough to even try something new. This mentality of weakness and ineptness makes us talk ourselves out of our dreams. We may feel inexperienced, unknowledgeable, lacking in endurance, deficient in the required attitude for successfully qualifying for the desired item.This results in the formation of an endless array of excuses that only help validate our insecurities. But, being  UNQUALIFIED is in itself a qualification.

The ability to recognize your deficiencies makes you qualified to try and fill the identified deficiencies. It gives you the drive to do something to improve. It gives you the impetus to look for opportunities to grow which is what in actual sense makes you qualified.

We often times listen to negative talk or more so our negative self talk which magnifies the deficiencies instead of magnifying opportunities for improvement. What good does coming up with excuses have? Nothing but stagnation which enables insecurity. We end up shying away from opportunities for growth because of fear of rejection, fear of failure. 

What’s the worst that can happen when you take a chance to do something you have dreamt about? Failure?  Well, there is victory in failure too… So, how is this possible?  How can you say that failure in itself is an achievement to something? It sounds crazy or is it?

Failure:

  1. Exposes you to the reality of what does not work. It guides you towards improvement therefore improving objectivity.
  2. Failure opens one to more opportunities. The fact that you had the courage to try something new, to step out of your comfort zone gives you the courage to try again.
  3. Failure prepares us for oncoming success. By reaching rock bottom and surmounting obstacles along the way, you are able to appreciate the success and not take it for granted. You are also in a better position to identify with someone in a similar position and encourage them along their journey in life.
  4. Failure forges character. It forges resilience, humility and in some instances patience.

So really, you have everything to gain and literally nothing to lose in trying something new.

Do you agree that being UNQUALIFIED is a qualification in itself? Hey, you can drop a comment ?.

Enjoy the rest of your week.

Kiria.

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RE-COLLECTION.

 - March 20, 2017

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Have you ever noticed that the general tendency in life is randomness, separation or the predilection towards scattering? It takes more effort to get organized, to collate, to create bonds which is usually an active process motivated by the impetus to achieve a desired goal.

Re-collection denotes an element of disintegration; the loss of integrity with an attempt to collate the remnants of what was. Yet, in a desparate attempt to salvage what was in the midst of separation,  dissociation and devastation, hope for restoration abounds. With these expectations of restoration comes the fear of disappointment which can rear its ugly head and cause discouragement when attempts fail. As a result, the pain of failure causes further isolation and eventually emancipation from the desired goal. It is easy to give up and think things may never change for the better. In the end, there is nothing to show for the attempts made except what is presently seen, the unsightly mess. 

We all make mistakes in life. It is easy to get caught up reminiscing  over past failures and regrets. This results in feelings of guilt which is detrimental to progress. By doing this, you let the past define your present and your future.

Re-collection leads to recreation, reinvention and restoration. Sometimes, letting go of unpleasant experiences of the past can be liberating and lead to newer, more exciting and pleasant experiences. Let go of past painful experiences. Let go of past failures. Let go, let go, let go, let go, let go and LET GOD make something beautiful out of your mess.

Re-collection: Recreation, Reinvention, Restoration = BEAUTY.

Have a fantastic week.

Kiria.

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THE ‘WHYs’.

 - March 14, 2017

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‘WHY‘, a 3 letter word that defines purpose. Every meaningful objective accomplished has purpose behind it. Purpose attaches value therefore provides motivation to push through challenges faced in life. 

When you attach purpose to what you do, whether it seems out of reach, it makes your dreams seem feasible. You are willing to work through the problem to find a solution with your eye still on the prize. 

The ‘whys’ help us prioritise things. They make us see things in order of importance therefore enabling us to fulfil the most important things in life. In short you do not overburden yourself with unnecessary responsibilities that may not be of significance currently.

The whys expose deficiencies present. By recognizing what is missing , one may be able to find a solution to the problem at hand. This enables growth and development.

The why’s indicate inquisitiveness; it builds sufficient curiosity that enables innovation and invention. The ‘whys’ are important and should never be forgotten. 

Have a fantastic week.

Kiria.

 

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THE CORD OF LIFE.

 - March 10, 2017

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Deep down there is an innate desire for appreciation, love and recognition in each of us. The fundamental aspects of life are proof of this common intriguing fact. From the very beginning of existence there is a connection between mother and baby in the womb. The vital line for the very survival of the tiny human being growing inside the womb is the umbilical cord. From the initiation of life, the relationship between mother and baby in utero is parasitic in nature where the baby depends on the mother for dear life. The fetus moves within the environment and is faced with all sorts of dangers. But, one of the most dangerous and most vulnerable times is during labour. The cord can be compressed and what was the life line of the baby is cut resulting in suffocation and eventually brain damage/death. But labour is a risk worth taking. It is necessary towards gaining independence. The journey towards independence is not easy but it is necessary for progression in life.  Independence involves adaptation to the new environment and use what we had developed while within the sheltered environment. If a baby is born at term, he/she has mature lungs and is able to use their lungs in extrauterine life. Once the baby is born the cord becomes redundant and is cut. It is upon the baby to adapt to his or her new environment since permanent separation has occurred. But, the remnants of the primordial connection remain tatooed on the abdomen. It is evidence of the connection between mother and baby. It is important never to forget the relationships of those you hold dear to your heart even while independent. We all seek independence in life in its various forms whether its financial, social or whichever context you look at it from. The point is that in order to become independent you must breakfree from past connections that may hold you back. We however, should not forget to show appreciation for the connections that helped nuture you to your current state of independence.

Relationships are important for growth. However, relationships that add no value in current or future circumstances are redundant and potentially dangerous. Sometimes separation is required to prevent adverse outcomes.

The journey towards independence never ends. It is part of life. No one ever progresses without the help of another/ others. It is important to be grateful for the people who may have contributed towards our growth at various stages of life. However, never let a relationship that is not of value burden you or allow it to be a perpetual threat towards advancement. Separation must occur for healthy development.

 

Have a lovely week.

Kiria.

 

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THE FIRST TIME.

 - February 27, 2017

Hi there. I’m sure at some point in time you may have heard someone say ‘there’s a first time for everything ‘. (If not, you are reading it from here ?). Well that may generally be true but this  could be dependent on the willingness of the person to execute the task at hand.

There is something sentimental about the first time you do something. It shows that you have achieved a milestone in your life. The first word a child speaks, the first time a child walks are part of the natural developmental processes in children and they normally occur within a specific period of time unless there was an underlying problem that causes delay. Successfully executing something for the first time is usually celebrated because it is an indication of growth in capacity and capability. It gives you the impetus to continue since successful completion is deemed possible.

Life gives us opportunities to experience things for the first time. For sure, it is upto the individual to be open to these experiences.

It is also true that not all first time experiences are positive. Many can look back at their life so far and contemplate on the first times they went through challenging times. Although one may not be fond of them, one may appreciate that some of those experiences made them stronger, more knowledgable and equipped to deal with such issues should they arise in future. In addition, one is in a position to give advice to someone in a similar quagmire based on their  past experience.

First times, first times, first times are important.

Enjoy the rest of your week.

Kiria.

 

 

 

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ILLUSIONARY TECHNIQUES.

 - February 24, 2017

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Hey guys. Hope you are having a fantastic week. Have you ever noticed that we usually have a way of dealing with problematic areas in our lives? Sure, the circumstances may be different but the concept is replicated in many instances. If you are short throw on a pair of heels and put on a monochromatic outfit to elongate your overall silhouette. If you feel you do not have enough waist definition, put on a belt to cinch in the waist. If you feel you lean more towards the heavier side, you can put on clothes with vertical stripes or dark colours to create a slimming effect.We create an illusion of perfection by carefully paying attention to concealing imperfections and enhancing strengths. But here’s the thing, cover ups are a temporary solution to a long term problem . At the end of the day, you will strip down and remain with the problem areas.

Many of us despise vulnerability. We are afraid of having our faults and weaknesses revealed to others. In fact, we try our best to hide them. We fear betrayal  and  judgement from others. But, here’s the catch, unless you deal with the issues that have taken root in your life, those problem areas will sprout. We sometimes deal with contentious issues superficially not knowing that the insecurities will continue being deeply entrenched in our lives. These insecurities will keep sprouting and have the potential to destroy existing relationships unless dealt with from the root.

Cover ups usually are associated with guilt and shame. There is usually something we are trying to hide. When we go to God, we can go naked and unashamed before Him – with our faults, weaknesses and insecurities exposed. He does not condem you for your past mistakes and weaknesses. He does not criticize you for mishaps done. He is loving and willing to forgive and rid you of all the past pain and regret. This prevents the insecurities present in your life from creating a toxic environment and poisoning existing relationships. When you go to God openly, you allow Him to turn things around for you such that what was initially intended to harm you works in your favour. Remember that the grace of God obliterates shame, guilt and feelings of worthlessness.

Have an amazing week ?.

Kiria.

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